Today you learned your child is autistic. He or she is the same child you loved yesterday, the same child you will love tomorrow. Remember that in all things autism. Be careful the autism does not become your identitiy. Only your child can decide if it is their identity, whether it is who they are. Your acceptance is everything.
Acceptance is not idle. It strives to meet potential without equating potential to a modification of soul. To cope, adapt and circumvent, is different than to change underlying nature. To have your child fake response and personhood is a fate worse than autism. It hides them from both others and themself. Becoming neurotypical is a common goal for parents of aspies and autistics. It is by far the most damaging thing you can do to us.
I understand your reluctance to embrace autism, but don't turn it into a reluctance to embrace your child. Acceptance is the most important component of treatment.
I live and love even as an autist.